Turn A Phrase
November 7, 2014Grief Reactions and Addiction Recovery
November 22, 20143 Little Words
Communication is one of the “BIG 3” issues with which people struggle. Knowing that, it is important to be extra careful in how one uses words. The simpler we can stay in talking, the better in most cases. Let’s examine a few 3 little words which can make a big statement.
- “I understand you.” There is nothing sweeter to our ears than to hear that someone “gets” what we are trying to say. We feel such a sense of respect and acknowledgement when this happens. In order to be understood we have to be heard.
- “Let me help.” An offer of assistance in a time of need shows compassion and concern for others situations. One can see a sense of relief when help is offered as well as a genuine sense of gratitude.
- “You are important.” Merely having someone acknowledge our being empowers us to bigger and better things in life. By feeling that we have a significant place in the world gives us the confidence to take action.
- “Use your voice.” Those people who encourage us to speak up, to share our opinions about issues, offer a gift that is remarkable. The implication that what we have to say deserves to be heard resonates loudly.
- “I forgive you.” The grace that it takes to utter these words is astounding. Any person who has ever been hurt in any fashion recognizes the difficulty of getting to forgiveness. To hear the words said to you is freeing.
- “I love you.” Aren’t these three words the most magical of all? Powerful words indeed. To hear these words spoken melts your heart. Love, in its purest form, heals both body and soul and raises people out of pain if even for a moment.
Anger, addiction, daily life struggles – all tend to make it difficult to communicate effectively. Begin by simply using 3 little words. The results will be amazing.
“Effective communication is 20% what we know and 80% what we feel about what we know.” — Jim Rohn